Girls only 21+: if you had just started dating your boyfriend?

it had been 2 months. your birthdays came on back to back to days. his family lived out of state, and yours lived in state. your both turning 25.



would you be upset if he told you his family wanted to see him on his birthday, and he ended up going home? but he sent you flowers on your birthday



would this dishearten you on the relationship that he left on your first birthday together? would it change how you see him?

Girls only 21+: if you had just started dating your boyfriend?
No, not at all. Yes, you're still in the "honeymoon stage" of your relationship where everything is super thoughtful %26amp; sweet; but at the same time, you're both still very individual. You've still got separate lives and personality traits that the other knows very little (if anything at all) about. You still want to give him his space - even though it is your birthday too, I understand that - but at this stage, don't let him feel that you may be trying to monopolize any of his time - it may scare him off.



At two months, I wouldn't take it personal.



At two years......... things are much different.
Reply:Well, since I am family-oreinted it wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't think it would be a problem since 1) you have only been dating a couple of months and 2) he sent you flowers. It WOULD be a problem if he just told you that so he could leave and get drunk with his friends.. but if he's really going to see his family then I don't think it's a problem.
Reply:Stop being so needy. Give him space. He's your love, perhaps your one %26amp; only, not your dog.



Apologies for being so blunt, but you need it. You could blow a good relationship here by being too self-centered %26amp; fragile.
Reply:It would have hurt me if my fiance missed my first birthday with him. I would have just told him "it's ok, we can make it up this weekend" or something.



How long has it been? Could you still celebrate both of your birthdays one day? Go out to dinner or something??
Reply:NO...DONT B SELF ISH....HE HAS THE RIGHT TO GO SEE HIS FAM FOR HIS BDAY..REMEMBER HIS FAM COMES 1ST N THEY WERE THERE B4 U SO U CANT B MAD AT THAT...AT LEAST HE SENT U FLOWERS WHICH MEANS HE WAS THINKIN OF U AND HE CARES SO U NEED TO GIVE HIM CREDIT FOR THAT, JUS B HAPPY HE REMEMBERED UR BDAY
Reply:No it wouldn't change how I felt about him.
Reply:no if she gets mad she needs to get over herself. i am sure her family would really like to c her too. u will being doing her a favor.
Reply:no, because you've only been dating for two months, it's not as if you've been together long enough to call it more than "dating"



and i think it'd be selfish to ask someone to do what you wanted on their birthday



it's a little needy
Reply:its fine he sent you something! everyone wants to be with their family now and then
Reply:I can understand how you feel because it's your first birthday together as a couple and that is important in a relationship. But don't be mad at him. His parents probably wanted to see him like how your parents would want to see you on your birthday. He probably went home because he missed his family. Also, it was nice that he sent you flowers on your birthday, the effort was definitely there. So all in all, don't be mad at him and don't change your opinion of him based on this incident.
Reply:It wouldn't change how I felt about him. BUT...did he even invite you to go with him? That wouldn't be right.