How do I earn my ex-girlfriends trust back?

I needed to explore different places first before I felt comfortable settling down. I broke up with her when I was in a different state, because I didn't see myself coming back home for a long time. I got to missing her so much I moved back after being away 9 months, 5 months after we broke up and tried to talk to her about working things out. She doesn't want anything to do with me. She says, things are over. We had a really good relationship and I know that at one point she loved me and she said so herself that she would have married me, but not anymore.



I've tried all the lame typical stuff dudes do to win a girl back- letters, flowers, but that just made things worse...



One day I want to marry her, but now it seems I blew things entirely and I feel hopeless %26amp; helpless...

How do I earn my ex-girlfriends trust back?
hi.i take it when you say explore different places you mean you were unfaithful.i would love to no what age you are because this would make a huge difference in your dilemma.iv been married to my husband 5 yrs this year but we've been together 13yrs this yr.when we first met we were sickenly mad about each other.we were both in our twenties but after a while my hub(of now!)kinda got itchy feet to explore( which he did )and i thought that was the end.i swore id never ever get back with him but as time passed(im talking a few weeks)i realised i loved him and decided(against everyone that meant anything to me,advise)to give him another chance.it was the best decision iv ever made in my entire life.if i hadn't i wouldn't have four beautiful sons that i have today.he made a mistake and the reason why im answering this question is because i really feel that you mean what you say.you made a mistake and you really do love this girl.it's almost the same senario as myself and my husband.i think your woman is afraid.you've got to reassure her.if she cant be reassured then she doesn't want to be reassured and you've got to move on.i really hope you work things out cause i truly believe you true heartily want to.good luck
Reply:It is what it is!

You made your choice when you thought the grass was greener, and she didn't wait around for you to find out it wasn't.

She's moved on mate, I guess it's time you did the same.
Reply:Time to move on. You don't seem to be respecting this womans feelings and that ain't love man. You hurt her but now you've decided you want to marry her. I think you blew it. All you can do is learn to cherish a womans love next time
Reply:Have you just simply ask her why she feels this way? Ask her and ask her to be honest with you so you can have closure if need be. I'm gonna guess why, she probably feels that she wasn't important enough to you when you decided to leave feeling like you thought you may have had better options. When love is solid, the heart doesn't feel the need to wander.



Edit, Fair enough, you made it sound like you wanted to explore other relationships. Well you should sit and talk with her then if you feel that strongly about her and ask her to be honest with you, so you have a better understanding. I know she has told you it's over but we all need to know why someone doesn't want to be with us, it's a part of closure. She's owes you at least that I think. Maybe it hurt her and she didn't like they way it felt so she has decided to distance herself from you so she doesn't have to wonder if you'll leave again?? Or she has found someone else, though you would have got some signals taling to her while being away if she had been dating anyone.. I'm throwing stuff in the wind here but I'm just going on instinct...Another factor is how long have you been trying to get her back? you broke up with her while you were away? The time frame is a little cloudy to me.
Reply:I understand you want her back, but when you go pleading your case with her, it shows her that you ar weak and whiney (or looks that way)..



To be honest with you, you will be much happeir in the long run if you go with someone who wants to be with you not someone you have to convince to be with you..
Reply:Well.....Sounds to me like you cheated on her and you hurt her terribly. How can she trust you again?



Nothing is free in life....You made a choice, moved away and broke up with her. Now it's time to pay the price for your actions. I agree with other answers...She has moved on with her life- now it's time you did the same!
Reply:DId you want to explore different places or diffrent girls? You can't have your cake and eat it to. Maybe she just isn't attracted to you anymore. And maybe she is but is just playing hard to get. tough call.
Reply:wow that sucks... but in all seriousness it's time to move on. If you get out of control she'll get a restraining order on you.
Reply:You had your chance and you blew it. Tuff. Next time you'll think harder.
Reply:She sounds like she's moved on. In which case, you have no option except to do the same. Everyone makes mistakes in love, and everyone can tell you a story about the one who got away.

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