How would this scenerio affect me if i was to turn christian?

Hello there.

I have no intrest in romance what so ever (whether it be wining and dining ,buying flowers for girls or even saying i love you). I have no problem with people that like this but none of it intrests me at all. I do not however want to miss out on sex. However the christain faith states that any intercourse without being married is sin. For the record i have no intrest in getting married or having children with a girl. What would be the best idea for you if you were in this situation and may possibly turn christian in the near future.

How would this scenerio affect me if i was to turn christian?
You can't have the best of both worlds! You need to pick which life style you want to live.
Reply:To convert into a religion, you first need the faith and beliefs, after converting you just embrace traditions. If you don't have faith in an only after-marriage-sex, then I guess you're not into christianity that much.



BTW, why would you do that to yourself? Convert, I mean...
Reply:If you want sex without marriage then you can be a christian but you will not be keeping to the standard that God has set for us. Like the guy above said why bother if this is how you wish to live your life.
Reply:Prostitutes. You then can retain your honor, tell no lady you love her when you do not, and they come with no expectations... all you want is a boinking buddy. Pay for it. Far cheaper than marriage, children, commitments and the rest. Strictly business--- and honorable, since you have not said you are something that you are not. and ps. christianity has nothing to do with it........
Reply:Even if you become a Christian it is still wrong any way you look at it. So are you looking to find a loophole in Christianity that will ok this behavior? Because in the Bible there is not one.
Reply:The reason that God does not want us to have sex before marriage is because sex is a very emotionally connecting experience and he wants to protect us from being hurt or emotionally hurting our partners. Christianity is based on the idea of loving people, not because it is easy or because we want to, but because we are called to show love to each other the way that God shows love to us. Taking that piece of a woman's soul through sharing that sexual connection is not loving toward her. God is not trying to be cruel, he is trying to protect us.

I think if you re-think the reasons why God calls us to have some self control, you might change your mind about what you really want.
Reply:Well now - that's a problem......



I assume that you are saying that because you don't want to (or don't like to) wine and dine. buy flowers etc.... that you'd be taking up with ladies of the evening to satisfy your sexual "needs"?



If not - please point me towards all the ladies out there that are into anonomous NSA sexual encounters for free .......



This not only goes against Christian beliefs (and the beliefs of most of the other major religions of the world), but it speaks VOLUMES about your psych issues with regards to interpersonal relationships, communication, and gender specific bias.



Do you view females as purely sexual objects? It sounds like this might be an issue for you from your post.



Are you a "loner". Afraid to get too close to someone because you've been hurt in the past / etc.... ?



I think your issue goes deeper than your struggle to reconcile your approach to life with your potential religious belief system. You should probably look into getting some help to figure out WHY you feel this way towards the opposite sex.



I can understand someone who is a-sexual, but someone who ONLY wants to have sex without ANY emotional attachment or even the facade of a relationship lacks basic interpersonal skills. Mankind was MADE (both by God and by physiology) to NEED the companionship of other humans - both sexually and non-sexually. What you describe goes against some very basic human instincts.



Either that - or you're just looking for a convienent excuse for not ever having to open up to someone in order to get some.



I wish you the best and hope you get some help to find the answers you need....
Reply:If you can't abide by the belief system then why convert? How it affects you is that you'll be damned to hell I suppose. That is what they believe happens to sinners.
Reply:If you become Christian then you will need to abide by the faith. You would need to limit yourself to sex being in marriage. To be Christian isn't like wearing jeans or shorts. Just change as often as you want. You either believe that Christ is your savior and that you want to follow Him or you don't. The choice is yours but the rules are God's. They won't change. But you will if you follow them. You will become the best you that ever could be. And the right person for you is out there waiting for you. Trust God to work that out for you.

DOG